Kinda sounds like you have your answer, no? While also acknowledging that it’s not easy to disappoint other people in service of our own needs.
Makes me think of the quote by Glendon Doyle from her book, Untamed, that goes:
“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
I have a very big decision to make, and this is so helpful.
This Gretchen Rubin quote got me. "When in doubt or indecision, choose the bigger life."
That in a nutshell is my decision. The bigger life based on what I want. Or doing something which will make others happy, but me unhappy.
Kinda sounds like you have your answer, no? While also acknowledging that it’s not easy to disappoint other people in service of our own needs.
Makes me think of the quote by Glendon Doyle from her book, Untamed, that goes:
“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”